Entries Tagged as 'sorbet'

Diva Loves: Pocketcell

Posted on: Thursday, November 22, 2012

I love my iPhone. I use it for tweeting, emailing,  running with my Nike + app, Dropbox files, Facebook updates for pages I manage, staying in touch with my Cherry Sorbet and Project Endo teams when I am with the Mini Divas, and even – occasionally – ringing people. Who knew?

The the thing that always comes to bite, though it battery life. If I am using Wifi or 3g the batter life really suffers. An Endomondo-tracked bike ride really canes the life of my phone and there have been times when I have still got several kilometres to go but no more tracking power. On train journeys when it seems sensible to use the time for productivity, it can be a risky business is there is no power socket to recharge. A day in London without charging my phone and I am left returning back to the Fens with a dead battery and unable to check in at LEON on Facebook on the way home at Kings Cross. Sad times. Read More >

Napping – infographic love

Posted on: Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Pinterest is a mine of amazing infographics and aesthetically designed statements, and this one by the folks over at mindbodygreen.com really caught my eye.

I am a keen napper, and regularly pop to have a snooze if my sleep needs a top-up ( highly common as a mum of young twins!), and I love my afternoon 40 winks. The knowledge that companies encourage naps is just brilliant, and I think Cherry Sorbet should make sure we have a red sofa with soem chillout music for all our team!

Do you like a nap, or does the thought of taking time out fill you with dread?

 

Guest Diva: Helena Wilson-Beevers on endo

Posted on: Wednesday, June 13, 2012

It is my pleasure to introduce the lovely Helena, (@mummymode on Twitter), who is now working with me on Cherry Sorbet and Dexterous Diva work thanks to the wonders of Twitter! It’s wonderful working with another writer whose life is like mine – 2 children and pain and exhaustion, although I would never wish it on anyone. I am grateful for endo, and to social media for connecting us. Over to my soul sista Helena….thanks darling for sharing your journey. x

I suffer from endometriosis, a condition that has permeated every aspect of my life for over ten years. At its worst I am in severe pain three weeks of every month and require hospitalisation and morphine for some respite. I think it’s important to empower other women and to talk about it but at the same time to not let a serious illness define your personality; the worse I feel the more mascara and nice outfits I wear as that is me, not the hideous pain I am feeling. I call it the art of illusion. The attitude I adopt is one of a ‘if you put a brick wall in front of me I’d still try and walk through it’. Quite clearly the endo is my weakness, but I see it more as a strength – it is the one thing that has made me dig deep enough to pursue my career in writing and my dreams of a gorgeous family, as if this idiotic disease can’t stop me then nothing will.

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building a career with a chronic illness

Posted on: Monday, April 16, 2012

 

As regular readers know, I have endometriosis. I also have chronic fatigue associated with the condition, and I am a lot of painkillers a lot of the time.

I also have 2 young twin daughters who are the lights of my life, and my own business Cherry Sorbet.

So, life can be busy, as you can imagine.

Holding down a job, or even a career with a chronic illness like mine can be problematic. I know of many endo sisters who are out of work, or who have never been able to hold down a job as their pain and endless hospital appointments make it very difficult.

I am very often in pain, tired, fuzzy headed, under pain medication and get tired very easily.

I am lucky enough these days to be my own boss, but even then obviously running a business requires a lot of input and I am often too exhausted or in too much pain to function on a normal level.

So here are my tips for coping, and for anyone out there also feeling frustrated and down about coping with an illness, please know you aren’t alone.

1. Be realistic
I am all for positive thinking (more on that in a moment), but there is a lot to be said for changing your expectations. My reality of a lot of pain, medication and two young children means that I am often not able to make meetings, speak to clients or do the work if it is urgent. I have made plan B’s now for all these scenarios to help the flow of things. I have mini me’s for meetings, a team of amazing designers and writers, and a great workflow to help things go as smoothly as possible.

2. Be honest
With yourself, your partner, your co-workers, your boss if you have one. This reality is not your fault, and you should not feel guilty about what you have to deal with.

3. Build a great support team
I am lucky enough to be surrounded by people who “get it” – friends, family and co-workers who know the score, who know that I am often extremely tired, sore, occasionally grumpy, and that I often have to change meetings and dates at the last minute if my pain flares up.  Oh, and people that don’t get it? Let them go…

3. Don’t say sorry
Feeling guilty is a negative emotion; be grateful for the amazing people around you, and accept they understand how things are.

4. Do all you can to educate yourself and improve
Be always on the lookout for how to help yourself through nutrition, complementary therapies, whatever you can. By taking control where you can the chaotic nature of a chronic illness is lessened. This really helps me deal with the frustration of illness.

5. Reframe it
Re-framing is a brilliant part of NLP practise that is so, SO useful in dealing with chronic pain. I have been reading a lot about NLP recently and have worked with the lovely Jo James from Amber Life on using it in my life. Rather than seeing a day or afternoon spent in bed as a waste, I try to re-frame it as an opportunity to rest, a day to write and blog if I have mental energy to do so, or a day to recoup if I don’t. The sooner I accept the need to rest, the sooner I get back to doing things.

6. Be flexible
Plans can change in an instant. I can go from feeling 5/10 to going downhill fast and I need to be able to cope in those situations. Have plans, a, b and c if needs be –  often the case when childcare is needed or work has to be done. I can find being flexible very difficulty, luckily I have a partner who is much better at thinking this way than me!

7. Don’t push too hard, just hard enough
Much of my fatigue is attributed to adrenal burnout, as well as the associated fatigue with endometriosis. I have often fought it, tried to carry on as “normal”, when I have a different body to the people I compare myself too. Equally, knowing when to push hard enough is essential; depression is really common in chronic pain conditions as life is affected so much, and knowing when to get out and about versus resting is a fine balance to strike but the essential lesson to learn. Instinct is usually best…follow your heart and listen to your body too.

8. Concentrate on what is working
Identify if you can the areas that are working well, or things you can do that aren’t time reliant or too demanding. For me, writing and blogging is perfect as it’s flexible enough to fit around the kids and my health, creative, fulfilling, non location specific and self-produced.

Do you combine work, children and chronic health? Let me know in the comments how you do it. Or, do you struggle to stop making yourself feel bad for not being “perfect”?

 

 

 

 

 

4 ways I make money from blogging

Posted on: Saturday, April 14, 2012

The ultimate utopia for many bloggers is to make money from this self publishing lark.

Of course blogging can be a hobby, a personal side project, creative outlet or just “your thing”, but to make  money from it and potentially “go pro”, for many, is a dream. The prospect of being your own boss, flexibly working and self publishing is very tempting.

Whilst I am nowhere near a 100% pro blogger status, (I also run a creative agency, Cherry Sorbet) blogging is a large slice of my revenue. Because I know this interests others out there, this is how I do it:  Read More >

Designing your career to fit your life

Posted on: Sunday, February 5, 2012

designing your career to fit your life

Origami cranes

 

geek chic and businessI have the amazing honour and privilege to work for myself, in a job that I adore.
I have a passion for what I do, I am my own boss, and the work I do fits in and around me, my children, our family needs and is non-location specific.

One of the biggest learning curves I have been on recently is around honing how I work and how I plan my goals and career to keep check of whether it is what I really want. We spend a lot our our lives at the thing we call work, and it may as well be something we enjoy, right?

There are so many publications out blogs out there about getting the job you want, making sure you are on the right path, and how to work out what you really want. This is simply my personal guide of how I have managed to do what I love and how I make it work.

Let me begin by recapping what I currently do, and how I earn a living. In essence, I am a designer, writer and blogger, being the easiest way to sum it up.  I am the founder and Director of Cherry Sorbet Creative, a design, editorial and social media agency for the beauty and lifestyle sectors, I write, I design, I blog and I also sometimes teach.

My income streams currently come from: ❤ Copy writing and designing for Cherry Sorbet clients  ❤ Social Media management ❤ Workshops and masterclasses ❤ Blogging for clients and other sites ❤ Advertising and revenue from my blog Dexterous Diva (this one!) ❤ All these trickle into the company and I take a wage.

Now, my parameters that I have set myself for the way I want to work may be different from yours, but they are related to my specific personal circumstances, wants and needs.In summary they are:

Flexible working hours flexible working hours ☆ Being free from constant demands and distractions ☆ Being non-location and time specific ☆ Staying focused ☆ Keep learning


flexible working hours

I am a mum to the beautiful Mini Divas and, like most working mums, I want to be able to combine building my business, earning an income and being “me” with lots of time playing, baking, going to parks and being mummy. I am also a person with a chronic pain condition, endometriosis, which needs management and can affect my ability to function as well as usual on some days. Being a mum means you need to build in flexibility with work and a schedule, have a condition means the same, so the two together needs a whole new way of looking at things. Here is how I have dealt with those two factors:

 Mini me’s and co-workers: I have a wonderful team of key Cherry Sorbet people who I work with so that my clients can always have a point of contact and work can always get actioned whether I am at a toddler group, playing on the swings or taking an endo duvet day. Building a team of ‘mini me’s” takes trust and some management but it is a great way to run a cohort business to enable work to get done on time, clients to be happy, and me to be able to oversee stuff without letting clients down if one of the kids are unwell or I am needing some time off. Obviously the profit margin of the business isn’t as high as if I were doing everything myself, but it absolutely works, and means I am able to build a business more than firefighting. This also leaves me able to do flexible stuff like writing and blogging and business development.

Being honest and not apologising: Having children is wonderful and a privilege and not something I need to say sorry for. If I can’t make an event or meeting because one of them is unwell and needs me at home I don’t feel terrible and berate myself profusely. I do of course make sure no one is inconvenienced as much as I can and apologise for the change of plans but most people understand. It’s life. If they give me a hard time they aren’t people I wish t work with anyway….

Being honest with endo is also something I am open with. If there is a chance my treatment or pain may hold me back from doing something I will be open about it and people can then make the choice about working with me. If I can’t make something I make sure a mini me does, or I just re-assess if it matters.

 Not taking on too much and letting go: there are only so many hours in the day to work, play with children, keep a house, exercise, socialise and sleep. It can’t all be done to  perfection and it can’t all be done NOW, something I have had a natural resistance to accepting for most of my adult life. However, going easy on myself reaps rewards for me, my work, my family and all around me. It’s just nicer to be nice to yourself. Also, nothing gets done very well if I am frazzled.

Conventional office work means being near a phone and always at the desk during key hours, but the way technology is moving we don’t need to be restricted.  I have designed a workflow to ensure I am not always having to check things for fear or letting a client down. I set up filters for my emails to be filed intuitively, and when key people email I get an immediate alert on my phone so I can access the message and make sure things are being actioned either by me or my wonderful mini me’s. Have a peep at my working less workflow post if you fancy. My business number diverts to a voicemail which texts me the message if I have been unable to answer, and I set up auto responders to keep people informed of where I am, how they can reach me and who else to contact. At the moment of writing this I am on a plane to New York it is a working  day and I am not in the least bit concerned that my clients won’t be happy. That is so liberating.

I love to travel and want to be able to incorporate my work from wherever I happen to be.. I also work with international clients and don’t want to be sat eat my computer 24/7. I deal with this by not creating an expectation to have “an office”. I do have co working lounges I use in London and Cambridge for somewhere inspiring to work and places to meet clients. Having a fixed office is an extra overhead, it would mean my rates would have to be much higher, and I don’t want to be associated with any particular town or city. Cherry Sorbet has London, Cambridge and Brighton presences but it could also be Barcelona, Cornwall and Seattle. Working remotely also means that I don’t alienate business my not begin local to them…we can work with anyone, anywhere, anytime.

I encourage Skype calls often, as it is a way to have face to face the without losing out on productivity with travelling 3 hours of my day for a 1 hour meeting. I am working on limited time anyway being a mum, so to maximise what I do, using technology is  just brilliant.

Using cloud based systems like Gmail and the associated apps, Dropbox and, soon to be Adobe Creative Cloud, I can access my work emails, documents and files from anywhere. Whilst this system works for me to be out and about locally and on UK based trips, it also lends itself to be abroad for longer periods of time without business suffering. This is something I am thrilled about, as I love the idea of making mini breaks a change of scene to stay fresh and creative is important to my personality and aims from life.

 

With time begin a limited resource and my hyper creative brain constantly in the background I need to reign in my projects. I do this by setting up a simple spreadsheet (on Google docs, of course) and dividing my year into quarters. I then work out what I want to achieve in different sections of life, Cherry Sorbet, personal development, fitness, family time etc, and work backwards to each section to see what I need to do to get there. It’s a really, really simple trick that keeps me on track so when I start being tempted to go off and start a new project that sounds exciting I check in with my aims and see if it is relevant for right now, or whether it can wait while I do other things first. It leo ensures I feel like I am achieving, developing and moving forward. Simple planning really, but it is powerful.

For me, the fact that my career is a varied and portfolio one what encompasses blogging, writing and design means I need to be up to date with social media trends, consumer culture insights, the fashion and beauty industry and niche blogs. I make sure I do this as part of my ongoing information gathering, and I keep on top of news and updates by subscribing to news feeds, emails and magazines which I can easily access for whichever sector I need. I also make sure I am aware which skills I need to develop to make sure I can stay fresh, and booking myself on to e courses, reading books and getting out there to learn what I need to in this changing environment.

So, my tops tips for creating a career that fits my life..how can you make yours do the same for you? Let me know, we can all learn from our experiences!

designer writer blogger

 

16.1.12 Last week I wrote ✎

Posted on: Monday, January 16, 2012

So here’s a little list of things I have been writing away from this here blogette last week:

✎ A post on Blurgroup about the Huffington Post not paying bloggers.

✎ I asked if Going Viral is the new Marketing Myopia

✎ I talked about why brands should be investing in design over on Cherry Sorbet.

✎ I shared my love of instagram and why fashion and beauty brands should be using it.

✎ I also looked at Nike’s Make it Count campaign over on GraphicDesign.com which will be up later this week.

instagram dex diva cupcakes

Phew.
Want me to blog for you? Give me a shout over on the contact page.;)

 

Why writing and blogging is good for you

Posted on: Friday, January 13, 2012

why writing and blogging is good for youdesigner writer blogger

I write for a number of blogs and publications. As well as obviously for enjoyment here on Dex Diva and the Mini Divas and for business over on Cherry Sorbet, I have a number of clients that I write for on a weekly basis.

I really feel that writing across sectors and platforms keeps me in touch with trends and current issues as well as keeping my skills and geek chic knowledge up to date. How so? Let me tell you, lovely Diva readers…. Read More >

Creative Crush: Miss Allen

Posted on: Saturday, January 7, 2012

creative crush: Miss Allen, illustration

 

This week’s creative crush is another very good friend of mine and Cherry Sorbet co-worker the lovely Miss Michelle Allen. Michelle and I met when we were part of Team Bangs on the Run last year, and we actually finished the run together which was very special. Michelle and  I are off to New York in February to soak up some design and culture, and probably plan some WordPress world domination.

Meet Miss Allen, one of the loveliest people I know, and an adopted little sister to me. Read More >

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