This week the Big U has been sending me lots of messages (as she always does, but I seem to have picked up on these particularly).
The theme has been around self belief, dreaming bigger and not playing small.
The first message came in the (attractive) form of John Hamm; speaking on the Jonathan Ross show at the weekend, he was talking about all the shit jobs he took in Hollywood before hitting his lucky break.
The guy slept in cars as a homeless waiter, did runner jobs on film sets, and stayed in the game to be surrounded by the right people. A little like art imitating life (our Don Draper totally hustled his way to his Ad Exec position), Hamm hung in there. (repeat that last phrase to yourself, it’s quite soothing. As you were…)
You either suck that up and find another agent, or you go home and say you gave it a shot, but that’s the end of that. The last thing I wanted to be out here was one of those actors who’s 45 years old, with a tenuous grasp of their own reality, and not really working much. So I gave myself five years. I said, if I can’t get it going by the time I’m 30, I’m in the wrong place. And as soon as I said that, it’s like I started working right away. (via The Times)
He gave himself 5 years of hustle to hit the a home run of a great role, and it sounds like his dream really challenged his make or break ethic. His “lucky” break was the result of taking action, of being there, doing it, and believing.
Next up, I watching a rockumentary about legendary bands (loads of hair and testosterone thrown in), Brian May talked about his bandmate Freddie Mercury. Freddie always acted like a star, even before they had made it big.
As we all know, Freddie became of of the biggest rock stars in history – that guy wasn’t playing small.
Now, I am definitely not asking you to sleep in cars, don some spandex or start belting out Bohemian Rhapsody as a morning ritual (although if you DO, send me the video link below).
These stories of success reminded me that these people saw themselves where they wanted to be, and acted as though they were already there.
I am a big believer in manifesting the stuff in life that you desire from thoughts and actions, good and bad, so this totally rings true to me. This year has been amazing for my life and business, not least because I have been sure that I am capable, that it is possible, and why not me?
That said, I have a long way to do, and I can see what I need to do. There are still many areas in which I am playing small – partly down to confidence, health, having a family etc, but also down to needing to know and believe that I can dream bigger and succeed.
Maybe you can see your journey too – are you still playing small anywhere? How can you act “as if” you have already had success?
With lots of these things, starting small to not play small can help. Go incremental, as Denise DT teaches in her amazing Get Rich Lucky Bitch Bootcamp.
So, if the future you wears smart clothing for work, can you invest in one outfit, or even one item of clothing that makes you feel amazing?
If the future you has a VA, can you start to hire someone for an hour or two to get used to it and show the universe you are serious?
If the future you has a red shiny VW Beetle, can you drive one or hire one for the day?
You get the idea.
Sometimes when we think about dreaming big , the temptation is there to think about what we SHOULD be aiming for. Remember, the dream needs to be yours for it to feel congruent, for it to happen, for it to resonate with you.
Let me know in the comments below, where are you still playing small, and how can you dream bigger and make it happen in increments?
I can’t wait to hear,